Okay, I guess every person who has organized a wedding has had to go through this — who do you invite?
The original plan was to keep our wedding super small (like 20 people) with only really close friends and immediate family. The problem is that I have a huge extended family out here in Southern California — some of whom I’m close to and others I’m not. Whenever I first talked to my mom about this she said that I should still invite 3 of my cousins who I haven’t seen in over 4 years (who also have pretty big families themselves — at least a kid or three each). I’m pretty close to the brothers of these cousins and would like to invite them to the wedding (they call and keep up with me and were really there for me after my dad died) but not really the women. In fact, one of the women cousins really annoyed me at her sister’s wedding when she turned to the priest and introduced me,
“This is my cousin, Katie. She’s an atheist. ” (Which isn’t even true, but probably her description of anyone who is not a practicing Catholic.)
My take on the situation is that this is Our wedding, meaning that the only people we would want there are people we truly care about and love. We’re planning on having a potluck BBQ sometime after the wedding to include the people who couldn’t come, and I think that for the 3 cousins I’m not close to this would be a great time to see them. (I’m trying to keep to the rule of thumb that anyone I haven’t talked to or seen in the past year isn’t invited…)
So, how divisive would it be to not invite these people, I wonder? (Inviting them will easily add 1/3 to our total count because of the size of their families…)
Any thoughts out there???
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